Posts from November 2025
What Should Christians Think About Self-Defense and War?
Is it biblical for a Christian to defend themselves or their loved ones from harm? This question has sparked considerable debate within the church, from the early apostles to modern believers. On one hand, Scripture calls us to be peacemakers and to “turn the other cheek” (Matthew 5:39). On the other hand, the Bible also affirms the sanctity of life and portrays godly people taking up arms to protect the innocent. How do we reconcile the call to love our…
8 Things You Can Do To Turn Away Your Wife or Girlfriend
Most men do not wreck a relationship with one dramatic moment. They do it slowly. Quietly. One small compromise at a time. Repeatedly. You drift from Christ, drift from responsibility, and drift from love and leadership. A woman feels that drift long before a man ever notices it. One of the things I often teach men is the idea of Interest Level. It is simply the measure of how much she is drawn towards him, respects him, and how cherished…
When Churches Entertain Instead of Exegete
I have watched a troubling shift take place in churches across North America. Many pastors no longer see the careful, patient, week-after-week exposition of Scripture as the main task of Sunday worship. Instead of revering the inerrant, perfect, sufficient Holy Word of God, and opening the text and explaining what God has said, they are instead more concerned about creating an atmosphere. They craft an experience. They build a service that feels exciting, motivational, or emotionally charged. The fog machines…
Discipleship Isn’t Optional: Why Every Christian Man Needs to Be Trained for Battle
When Jesus calls a man to follow Him, He does not invite him into a life of comfort or casual Christianity. He gives a clear and costly command. In Luke 9:23, our Lord says, “If anyone would come after Me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow Me.” That is not a suggestion. It is the daily call to every single Christian man. The Christian life is not passive. It is not something you drift…
The Best Books on Men’s Ministry: A Practical Guide for Church Leaders
If you care about men’s ministry, you already know this: when you reach the men, you reach marriages, kids, and the whole culture of a church. That is not clever marketing talk. It is simply what we see all over Scripture and church history. There’s a saying: “As men go, the church goes.” When men repent, bow to Christ, and start leading in humility and love, everything changes around them. Because that is true, you do not want to guess…
The Truth Behind the Psalm 118 “Middle of the Bible” Claim
Every once in a while, I see a graphic floating around the internet that looks spiritual and inspiring, but when you check under the hood, the details just do not hold up. One of the most common ones claims that Psalm 118 is the middle chapter of the Bible, that Psalm 118:8 is the exact center verse, and that this is God’s way of highlighting the verse “It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in…
Elders, Overseers, Shepherds, and Pastors: All the Same Biblical Office
Clearing Up the Confusion If you walk into ten different churches today, you might hear ten different leadership titles: Lead Pastor, Executive Pastor, Youth Pastor, Senior Pastor, Worship Pastor, Teaching Pastor, Associate Pastor, Campus Pastor, Church Plant Pastor, and on and on it goes. Titles like these have become so common that most people assume each represents a separate office or level of authority. But when we turn to Scripture, that assumption immediately falls apart. The New Testament presents a…
Pornography Is the Silent War Destroying Men of God
Men, Stop Pretending You Can Love Christ and Cherish What Nailed Him to the Cross Brother, if you are a man in Christ, you are called to holiness. Pornography is not a hobby you manage. It is a soul disease that eats your conscience, mocks your vows, and smears the name of your Savior. It promises pleasure and leaves you empty. It offers escape and chains you deeper. Jesus did not shed His blood to purchase men who stare at…
10 Subtle Lies the Modern Church Believes
We live in a time when deception doesn’t always come wearing a red suit, horns, and a pitchfork. It often comes smiling from a pulpit, singing on a stage, or trending on Christian social media. The most dangerous lies are rarely the ones that sound obviously false. They’re the ones that sound almost true. They sound all warm and fuzzy, emphasizing our happiness and contentment. The modern evangelical church has absorbed many of them, often without realizing it. The Apostle…
5 Tips for a Thriving Men’s Ministry (Wisdom from the Experts)
Leading a men’s ministry can feel like a big challenge – I’ve been there. You have probably wondered, How on earth do you get busy guys excited about church? How do you move beyond the token monthly pancake breakfast and really impact men’s lives? How do you get men to be committed to showing up and being regular disciple makers? Luckily, we don’t have to figure it out alone. I’ve gathered five nuggets of wisdom from seasoned men’s ministry experts…
How to Be Led by God Without Waiting for a “Sign”
Every Christian wants to be led by God. We all want to know which way to go, which decision to make, and how to be sure we are walking in His will. But so many believers freeze up waiting for some kind of “sign.” They want a dream, a voice, a confirmation, or a coincidence that will remove all doubt. That kind of thinking feels spiritual, but it can actually reveal a misunderstanding of how God leads His people. God…
How Men Can Deal With Anger
Anger is one of the most explosive emotions men face. Every man feels it when disrespected, ignored, misunderstood, or pushed too far. But while anger itself is not always sinful, what we do with it usually is. Ephesians 4:26 says, “Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger.” That verse draws a line between godly anger and sinful anger. Godly anger defends what is right and honors truth. Sinful anger defends ego, pride,…
Why Real Men Sing in Church
There is something quietly tragic about standing in a room full of men on Sunday morning and hearing mostly the sound of women singing. Not to sound overly judgmental, but I’ve seen it far too often. Rows of husbands and fathers stand motionless, hands in pockets, eyes on the screen, and lips barely moving, if even at all. Their silence speaks louder than any note could. Of course, this issue is not just about singing. It is about the condition…