It’s way too easy to point at a multitude of sources and blurt out, “now that is the reason society is going downhill!” In most cases, with these reasons both being direct and indirect negative influences, I honestly think that the majority of woes in our society can be fixed if not only if we accept Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, but also if we completely abandon the world’s definition of family and wholly embrace God’s Biblical standard for marriage and raising children.
Now I have to clarify something here before I get rolling. Below in this article, there are going to be concepts of the submission of a wife to her husband that are going to seem archaic and downright wrong from a modern, 21st Century, secular, feminist point of view. I will always side with what Scripture declares on any issue as society can and has changed on many fronts about a slew of topics over the course of thousands of years. You, me, and all of us should side with what God proclaims, no matter what the fallout would be for holding such opinions. Culture changes; God’s Word stands forever.
I do want to offer this: I firmly believe that in contemporary Western culture that women should have equal status as men in many different ways – in government, in the voting booth, in the workplace, and in the secular “townhall” (both online and in the literal, physical form). I’m all for a female being United States President, being my supervisor at work, receiving equal pay for comparatively same jobs, and so on.
I also think in God’s eyes, in salvation, in status, in worth, and in significance, that both men and women are equal in Christ and neither should be regarded as second-class citizens of the Kingdom. As Galatians 3:28 asserts, “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”
What the Issue Actually Is
What I take umbrage with is redefining the roles of the man, the woman, and children in the family context. Because of this, we’ve entered a long, downward spiral into a discombobulated morass that has led to skyrocketing divorce rates and single-parent families. It’s as if someone ripped out correctly-sized gears and rolls on a super-long conveyor belt and replaced them with large ones where small ones should have been and small ones where large ones should go. Certain parts will go faster than planned and other sections will move slower…until the whole thing gets jumbled up and ceases to work correctly.
So the Biblical definition of marriage and family must be sought after and applied to every household. While the Scriptures do not specifically offer a step-by-step order for priorities of family relationships, upon taking the Bible as a whole in context, we can get a pretty good idea of how things should be laid out.
An excellent place to start constructing a familial framework would be 1 Corinthians 11:2-16. I encourage everyone to either dig out their Bibles or carefully read the passage online, to grab the all-important context to sort out this tricky issue.
As you can ascertain in verses 3 and 4, the hierarchy is laid out like this: God the Father –> Jesus Christ –> Man –> Woman.
God is First
We begin (as we always should) with God. Deuteronomy 6:5 proclaims, “Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.” It’s one thing to believe in God or a higher power of some kind, but it’s a completely different ball of wax to make Him preeminent in all things in your life. All of one’s heart, soul, and strength should be committed to loving God, making Him the rank above anything else.
Jesus Christ is Next, As the Head of the Church
Next would be the Lord Jesus Christ. Yes, Christ is fully God (John 1:1, John 10:30, Hebrews 1:8, Colossians 1:18, Colossians 2:9, just to name a few verses). Yet even though Jesus Christ is God the Son, the eternal Second Person of the Trinity, He humbled Himself and become a lowly human to die on the cross for our sins:
…Who, being in very nature God,
did not consider equality with God something to be used to His own advantage;
rather, He made Himself nothing
by taking the very nature of a servant,
being made in human likeness.
And being found in appearance as a man,
He humbled Himself
by becoming obedient to death—
even death on a cross!
Therefore God exalted Him to the highest place
and gave Him the name that is above every name,
that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow,
in heaven and on earth and under the earth,
and every tongue acknowledge that Jesus Christ is Lord,
to the glory of God the Father.”– Philippians 2:6-11
Jesus Christ voluntarily took that subordinate role under God the Father so that He could become the substitutionary atonement needed for our sins. In order words, blood had to be spilled, and since God loved us so much and required a perfect sacrifice, He sent His Son to do that work in our place for us (1 Peter 2:24 and 1 Peter 3:18).
Now being risen from the dead, Jesus Christ is glorified and is the King and Head of the Church. Throughout the New Testament, Jesus is compared to a Bridegroom, and the Church is referred to as His Bride.
After That Comes the Man, and the Woman Submits to Him
Next in the “pecking order” comes the mortal, terrestrial persons, of which men are preeminent when it comes to family. This may be offensive to those who are raised outside of the church. I still have to confidently stand by this since it is God’s Word.
When it comes to the Biblical order of the family, the two verses in Scripture that summarize this are (as mentioned above) 1 Corinthians 11:3: “But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.” And Ephesians 5:23: “For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.”
Since we’ve looked at the entirety of the 1 Corinthians passage already, let’s once again pull together that crucial context of the fifth chapter of Ephesians and break it down. Here it is in the NIV translation of the Apostle Paul’s Spirit-inspired instructions:
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, His body, of which He is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church – for we are members of his body. ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ This is a profound mystery – but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
Ephesians 5:21-33
The way the passage starts in verse 21 – “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” – is a doozy and a heavy reminder that in all things, we should have a starting ground of practicing humility, selfless love, and servitude to one another by submitting to one another in general in the Body of Christ.
Starting in verse 22 and going through verse 24, are directives for the wives in marriages to submit to their husbands: “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, His body, of which He is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.”
This rule is also mentioned in Colossians 3:18-19: “Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them” and in 1 Peter 3:1: “Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives when they see your respectful and pure conduct.”
It’s clear here. God is not calling for a weird contortion of Biblical directive, a “half-Godly/half-secular” interpretation to be applied, nor is cherry-picking and ignoring these verses together okay. We are not to follow a 50/50 approach to who wears the pants in the marriage. And we certainly should not practice the woman being the boss in the house!
The Man is to Cherish the Woman
With that having been said, an unavoidable point needs to be brought up: this rule of the man being the head of the woman cannot be abused.
In other words, this does not give an excuse for a guy to treat his woman like dirt or to angrily bark orders at her. Power trips are not allowed. A husband in a Godly marriage is not to act like an entitled, lazy, selfish oaf. In fact, it is quite the opposite of having a self-centered, abusive disregard for his spouse. The husband must aspire to the perfect model of Jesus Christ in terms of sacrifice, selflessness, and unconditional love:
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” (Ephesians 5:25-28)
Now that is not to be taken lightly! Remember the passage from Philippians quoted above on Jesus Christ humbling Himself to become a man so that he could die for the sins of all mankind? That is the deep, agape love husbands must display for their marriage partners. The man’s love obviously doesn’t sanctify his wife the way Christ’s does the Church, but the husband should still see his wife’s spiritual growth in Christ as a major priority.
In verse 28 of Ephesians 5, it implores men to love their wives as much as they love themselves: “…husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” There is no room for selfishness in the way a husband treats his cherished wife. He has to give his woman that same regard as he does himself, with the utmost consideration and profound love.
So in conclusion, there is no macho parading in which the man gets to indulge. There is no room for bullying, cockiness, power trips, or greed in this role that men have. Husbands are tasked with the gargantuan responsibility of daily living out the ultimate in self-sacrifice, love, care, honor, and respect for his wife.
Before we move on, let’s clear a couple of misconceptions or ways that the woman submitting to the husband can get distorted.
Misconception #1: Any woman can get bossed around by any man.
This is wrong and is clearly outside the realm of any sound Biblical reasoning. Since a husband and wife are, as Ephesians 5:31 quotes Genesis 2:24, “one flesh,” they share a special covenant bond that is sanctioned by God. This does not include any other man, either inside or outside the Church.
Misconception #2: A man can give his wife any instruction and she must follow it, even if it contradicts the Word of God.
A wife can certainly reason with her husband and give him input, advice, and wisdom when situations arise, but ultimately when final decisions have to be made, the woman should submit to her husband’s authority and be in agreement with him as a unified front.
But what about when the husband contradicts the Word of God? This is a bit of a tricky issue and may not be 100% black and white.
First, let’s get a broader context. The Bible tells us that in general as believers, that we are to submit to every human institution and governmental authority (1 Peter 2:13-17, Romans 13:1-7), that slaves/servants should respect and follow their masters (Colossians 3:22-25, 1 Timothy 6:1-2, and many more), and as we will see later, children are to obey and honor their parents (Ephesians 6:1-4).[1] And 1 Peter 3:1 states: “Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives when they see your respectful and pure conduct.”
There is always going to be someone or something that we are to respectfully submit to while we are here on earth. However, when it ultimately clashes with the Word of God, then God must always take preeminence over anything any earthly entity forces us to do. This doctrine I believe is exemplified in Acts 5:29 when the early disciples were told not to proclaim the Gospel of Jesus Christ by the Jewish ruling authorities: “Peter and the other apostles replied: ‘We must obey God rather than human beings!'” I feel the same approach can be applied to just about any other level of human position, whether it be man, woman, or child.
And Last, the Children
Another cause of societal and familial breakdown is the re-prioritization of children. They are not to be made the most important members of the family and rule the roost, as the Bible never directly says nor indirectly implies once the kids are born, the parents are to put them ahead of their spouse.
When it comes to earthly relationships, a husband and wife will always be the closest and most important to one another, because through the sacred covenant of marriage, “that is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24) The bond of a husband and wife as one flesh is intended to be lifelong.
Children are in a sense, the opposite of that, as that one flesh of the husband and wife make a completely new person who should be submissive to them, as Ephesians continues in chapter 6:
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. ‘Honor your father and mother’ – which is the first commandment with a promise – so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” – Ephesians 6:1-3
As the verse above states, the children will eventually “leave his father and mother” to become one with his (or her) new spouse. At that point, the adult children are no longer compelled to obey their parents, although Deuteronomy 5:16 tells us to honor our parents so that we may live long and so things will go well with us. Until the age of adulthood, children are to display honor and obedience (Colossians 3:20).
Biblical Balance
When this hierarchy is followed and honored by Christian families in their home, true balance is achieved and God’s love and grace can flourish mightily. Put it into practice yourself. You may encounter some secular resistance and criticism from outsiders looking in, but you can rest assured that God will honor and bless this configuration as it is modeled after His plan and design for families.
An “umbrella” model of the Biblical Family Structure
Footnotes:
[1]Note: these are not listed in Scripture as complete and favorable endorsing and advocating of whatever institutions may be in society (such as a tyrannical government or harsh system of slavery), but just because they exist.
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34 Comments
John K
Very gutsy of you to post this in this feminist world, Scott, but it is absolutely true and biblical! Unfortunately, most of the church does not follow and promote this teaching. Keep on upholding God’s Word. Good stuff.
Debby Hartinger
I understand your thinking this ‘gutsy’ as most people don’t agree. I’m also happy, as you are, that there are Christians who preach the truth.
Vince
Be careful Christians, we are wrong to only scold and teach women and wives. Do we really believe that God wants us to only teach at women/ wives, then forget to teach husbands/men? Look at the state of the world today. Can any of us place the blame at women’s feet.
Marriage and relationships, are not all related to husband and wives. It’s important, but rose, murder, molestations, greed, arrogance, selfishness, are wrong too. Wives wondering about things in marriage, has nothing to do with feminism, anymore than one would we can say that male chauvinism messes up marriage too. What about when husbands sin and don’t obey his command in Ephesians! The husband must till the ground, but if he doesn’t, are we going to say he is disobedient to the Word? Then why are we getting so upset when wives are disobedient?
We all are human. We all sin. A husband is a mortal man. He is never equal to Christ or God. He us jus place in position over the wife. A man is not better than a woman.
So we must not as men allow ourselves to use arrogance and ego. We all have to stand in judgment. A man is only given authority over the woman in marriage. But read the Scripture where we are told that we are the same in God’s eyes.
Galatians 3:28
There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, fur you are all, one in Christ.
Thanks, Vince
12-6- 20
Lamar J Blakely
Great read my family follows this structure with love and support, and we love it. We really don’t care what others believe our say, because a family that prays together stays together plus we are 100% happy. We are so deep into our spirituality that we know god is at the head of our household we are all extensions of him even though I’m the physical head we are not focused on the order. God is great I pray that each family finds love and support through the word of Christ our savior.
Leonard Washington
Sir, because the word of God is pure as well as true, I thru Christ accept it wholeheartedly.
Thank you.
R Fried
I was raised in a Christian home with precisely this “pecking order.” Reality was defined by my father. He made our lives he’ll. The Bible and religion were to keep us all under his “authority ” so he could do as he pleased. Soooo done with the umbrellas. Once I left Christianity my life got a lot better.
Scott Roberts Author
R Fried, I’m sorry you had to go through what you experienced. Abusive or misguided fathering is not to be tolerated.
I think you hit a key concept when you say, “reality was defined by my father.” Instead of following God’s ideals for manhood and fatherhood in the Bible, it sounds like your father created his own selfish version of how he wanted things to be. His own “reality,” as you say.
Gio
Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately your father used the Word to manipulate, control and abuse his family. Just because HE decided to use it in the wrong way does not mean that this “pecking order” is wrong. He completely misused it. He did not do it the way the Bible teaches. Scott wrote this article with Biblical Truth. Your father unfortunately abused and misused it. Anyone in this world can use the Bible the WRONG way and convince anybody of anything when you pick and choose certain verses and not others. It must go as a whole. In its proper context in order to truly understand. Look at the word CONTEXT. It must go AS A WHOLE. The reason is because once you take certain TEXT out of CONTEXT, you’re just left with a CON. Unfortunately that’s what your dad did. Also a lot of people who profess to be “Christians” are really not. Even Satan disguised himself as an angel of light so it is no wonder that his servants (satans servant) would do the same.
Tracy Carter
Awesome word brother, Keep spreading the truth.
Scott Roberts Author
Thank you, brother.
Linda
Yes what you say is true if husband’s and wives draw close to God He will draw close to them and in turn draw close to one another creating peace in their marriage and bring order to the family Just do what Jesus says love God love one another
Freddie
What if you have to choose between work and above.
Chaplain Tommy Chavez
All in all very well written. However there was a we bit of grey in the rhe role of submission of the wife to her husband. This was layed out in the garden of Eden . When God was handing out correction to all parties involved. In Genesis 3:16 ”
NET Bible
To the woman he said, “I will greatly increase your labor pains; with pain you will give birth to children. You will want to control your husband, but he will dominate you.” Now I thought Dominate was harsh. But in the other versions that word is replaced with Control, lord, or rule thats when i realized that it was written as such because God ment it as such. There was biblical emphasis on that word. Not trying to start anything. But that is the word of God as it is written not to be changed and or watered down or diluted. Nowhere does it state that it is to be adjusted to keep up with the times.
airon maulana
thank you, that is the correct thing, its not meant to be changed or diluted, unfortunately women do not feel the same even those who are Christians, the reason why we have so many challenges in the church today. we need to go back to the word of God.
Jacob
You said it in your post that the Word of God should not be changed, but that is exactly what the NET is doing here. This is changed drastically and changes the whole meaning of what is said in the original KJV Bible.
Lois
And yet the curse of childbearing pain has been changed and is accepted. Today laboring women are given a variety of pain meds. The curse given to men, sweat of their brows…as they walk in the air conditioned grocery stores to get their meat. The one curse that man wants to hold up always is controlling the women, not just their wives. The same Holy Spirit lives in saved men, women, and children. Submission is always a voluntary act; I trust the teaching of the Holy Spirit to help believers to navigate love to one another. Love is where we will find the greatest act of submission,..laying down our lives for each other for His glory.
Laura
I recently wrote a post responding to the umbrella diagram, originating from Bill Gothard years ago, about the biblical order of the family. In case anyone interested: https://lightenough.wordpress.com/2020/08/30/the-umbrella-diagram-representing-christian-marriage/
MARTIN MBOGA TSUMA
Africa churches need this truth, surely many wives of African pastors must be trained to follow such order. Reach me please
Laura Martin
Martin, I’d suggest you look into CBE – Christians for Biblical Equality. They actually do work in Africa and have curriculum utilized in Africa. “CBE equips Christians to live out the Bible’s call for women and men to lead and serve as equals in the home, church, and world.”
Marcel udebuani
Thank you so much for this teaching I learnt a lot from it and I pray that God will help me and all of us to follow this divine order or protocol in our homes , God bless you real good
Royce E. Van Blaricome
Outstanding article of which I really wanted to save to my eSword for future reference and sharing but can’t because of one mistake. And that mistake is too HUGE to make light of or share.
“The way the passage starts in verse 21 “. Uh no. It does NOT. Verse 21 is the summation and conclusion of Paul addressing the CHURCH at Ephesus. That is consistent with his writings throughout his epistles and otherwise he would contradict himself in the very next verse as well as the other Scriptures/books you referred to.
That one verse used erroneously in tandem with Gal. 3:28 has been the source of SO MUCH error. From Egalitarianism to Female Pastors and that one claim PROVES that it was the Flesh at work and not the Spirit when writing the article.
I would exhort you to prayerfully consider this. Do some research and study considering top-notch esteemed theologians and Biblical scholars and I believe you will come to the same conclusion and want to edit the article. Address that properly and you will have written a superb bit of Biblical counsel.
God Bless,
Royce
Patricia Ward
I am having a hard time with this verse. A cheating spouse walks out on a marriage. When I told the other spouse that the children now needed to be made the priority this verse was thrown in my face. The children are innocent here and hurting. How can this be justified in this situation ? In a marriage that is working I totally understand the meaning, but children should not suffer the actions of the adults. Please help !
Phil
Did anyone ever reply to your question. ? It is well stated and deserves a fair answer.
Evelyn
This article disturbs and frightens me. May I point out a few cautions?
First, Jesus mainly criticized those who were in power and sought to retain that power. By declaring in the name of God that you as man stand between women and Christ, you up place yourself in this role.
You refer to feminism as a cultural culprit. Please note that feminism gives women a voice where we had none, rights to avoid us being suppressed like women under the Taliban, and gives us the ability to hold employment and all the roles you listed as what you support. How can you support those roles but not the premise? Feminism does NOT seek to exalt women above men, but to sit on a balanced role on equal footing, with voices heard from both types of people created in God’s image. You did not mention masochism as a cultural culprit. Why is this? Masochism seeks to keep men in power above women, to control women. It does not seek equality or balance. This cultural norm is prominent in our society and in the world. Of these, which would Jesus oppose? I think this is clear.
You chose to interpret Genesis ch 3 using a spurious interpretation to accuse women after the fall yearning to control our husbands. This is the real tell. The word means to yearn, desire. Only in the 1970s did someone introduce the idea of control. As a result of the fall (NOT God’s perfect plan,) we yearn for our husbands but they rule over us, marring the relationship. Your desire as a man to feel that God has given you a special place of authority, only shows a lack of readiness to be given it. I understand it, because the outside world is tough and men yearn for a place at home where they feel important. However, this structure to give this to you is not from God. Your place of value comes from him alone, not from a position of unearned authority.
You glossed over the part about submitting to each other with generalizations. Any specific examples of how men should submit to their wives would have been welcome.
Jesus is no longer submissive to God the Father, because he did submit for 33 years. If you follow the logic of Jesus and your model of submission in the home (church?), we would believe that because women are asked to submit now, we will be in charge when in heaven. Do you like that? I doubt it. The whole premise is flawed.
Finally, survey the families in the Bible: Abraham, Jacob, Ruth, Mary and Joseph, Peter the disciple, Hannah, David, Mary/Martha/Lazarus, Jesus, Paul. Almost none of these comprised one man one woman, one set of children by these two parents, and God declaring a structure of authority. Yet not once did God criticize and declare one man one woman. God said Love God, love each other as yourselves, and be extremely, wholeheartedly faithful to each other. Love love love, not power and position.
I DO NOT seek authority over a man, but I think you are wrong to use the Bible to seek authority for yourself and other men. Please be careful what you teach in Jesus’ name.
Ivette Parker
This was a well written response… I applaud you using facts. I never saw things the way you saw them… it is true what you say about the families in the Bible… another point is, why do most Christians think that they don’t need to do for their parents as these age?
Carl Odom
I think someone has hurt you or someone you care about more than yourself. Im truly sorry I know how it feels to have the so-called man of the house put himself above all for his own agendas. It was a hurt that haunted me for years until I gave it over to god.
That being said I as a MAN in a walk to guide my family down the narrow path to Gods kingdom would like to share how I received this word in scripture.
If just to give glory God
It doesn’t seem to me like the word was one sided it said for the husband to love his wife as Jesus love the church let’s all let that sink in. I do not mean that in a negative way I only say it because I paused myself to think about what that means. He loved the church so much he knew we all fell short of Gods glory. We were wrong,selfish and sinful but he still loved us through it all. He loved you and me so much that he gave the ultimate sacrifice for us.(The Church) so husbands love your wife through it all, show her respect by turning to Gods word for guidance and with love never ending she will respect. Because a love Worth dying for is worth submitting to. That how much GOD commands of us and with faith in HIM I trust in that obedience for what is asked of husband and wife.
Evelyn
Obviously I meant misogyny when I wrote about masochism! (Super embarrassing but hopefully my point was clear.)
Rossella
Feminism maybe was initially created to help women, but was later used to damage the family structure, as very well seen today. Along with LGBTQ trends, and easy divorces, ‘my body my choice’ easy access to abortion services, etc… It is all very easy to obtain making the sin alot more appealing because the ‘solution’ is easily obtained and a relief from ones responsibilities and consequences. In conclusion, it’s all there to contradict the word of God and rebel against the creator.
I don’t mean to contradict you, but here are a few verses I kept close when i was getting to know more about my role in the family:
The Bible mentions we are created from a man’s rib in Genesis ch 1.
Also in 1 Corinthians ch 11, many verses mention the position of the man and woman: (V3) The head of every man is Christ, and the head of every woman is the man
(V7) For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man.
(V8-9) For the man is not of the woman, but the woman of the man. Neither was the woman created for the man, but the man for the woman.
I hope this helps clarify some things.. I have been confused too, these trends are too loud and misleading.
SFreeman
No wonder Christianity is quickly shrinking in the U.S. Check out the latest research from the Barna Group, , the results of which are undeniable. Women especially are fleeing Christianity in droves. See any connection? Keep preaching this if you believe it to be ‘Biblically true.’ However, stop complaining then that Christianity is losing relevance in modern culture and people are apathetic or even hostile to the ‘word of God.’ They simply are not buying what you are selling. Facts!
Christy Marmolejo
God bless, Christianity isn’t demising if its in the True Word of God, it’s getting us ready for the LORD’S coming and if we pass before His coming. Matthew 7:13, “Enter by the narrow gate; for wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and there are many who go in by it. So you can see not many will follow Jesus Christ but only their own ways of stubbornness that their way is right. The Word of God is the only way, John 14:6, Jesus said to him,”I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me. Amen, seek the Lord, do not follow men only God. The Word of God is to correct us because we don’t know better. God bless
Samantha
I struggle to submit to my husband in all things. He is wonderful in many things but not so much in others. He loves our children deeply. He works hard. He teaches and advises on Biblical knowledge. However he does not pray with us, he has not guided us in finding a church- just complains he does not like our church, I handle all educational and church activities for our children. I’m just not sure how to submit to things that I see ending badly or effecting our children negatively. He wants to tell me how I should handle our son but rarely steps in. He wants to spend how he wants but will never make a budget with me. I manage our finances but he doesn’t want to help make the budget? Should I blindly submit to these things? He says he doesn’t get involved anymore because I didn’t let him but I feel like he abandoned me quickly in these duties and the gets upset that I don’t submit to him when it’s convenient for him.
Scott Roberts Author
Samantha, a man who does not pray individually or with his family daily, who does not lead his family to church, and who does not lead his family spiritually, is NOT someone who is teaching and advising on Biblical knowledge. He has to LIVE it. He has to model it for his bride and children. He unfortunately is a man who has “checked out,” i.e., a man who thinks that working hard making a paycheck but coasts through the rest of life (especially at home) is enough. He needs to get his rear end off of the recliner. He should turn off the TV and/or the video games. Your husband must repent, get humble before God, and start living out his biblical convictions. He needs to be a man who leads and is involved.
As a Christian wife, you should submit to your husband (1 Peter 3:1-6). Read these verses over and over. Study them, and ask God to help you live them out. Show Christlike humility, respect, honor, and servitude love towards him. I know it’s incredibly tough especially if your spouse isn’t reciprocating things back to you. But stick with it. And be VERY patient and gracious with him.
But your husband needs some intervention. Have you had conversations about these things to him? Lovingly bring them up. And tell him that you would like him to start doing these things. First and foremost, he needs to lead you and the kids spiritually at home. Then things like scheduling events, a hunt for a new church, and budgeting.
Do you have trusted Christian friends who can talk to you two about his leadership? A small group you can get involved with? A pastor who can counsel you?
John deisal
Wow, this whole passage was ridiculous and taking out of context. This is not how a strong driving relationship with God was explained. This demonstrates of men Are hardly accurate being 90% of families, broken come from women thinking they can do better than their husbands and breaking the family and to pieces forever tarnished and destroyed.. Women have been screaming and crying about rights. Is it you do not have enough of them? Last time I checked, you can do anything in America. Last time I checked the courts access. Last time I checked there are hundreds of thousands of corporations with the sole purpose to help women support women how is women give women access to free materials and opportunities and even shelter.. if I were to say this is not equal then what would you have to say? Last time I checked, we work we provide we cherish our families by nature. Last time I checked, it was equal rights granted not equal outcomes stolen. What if every man decided to follow the feminist throughout and identify as women? what if men decided to play the game that women love to play and benefit from? Once you cross that line and walk through that door where do you think it will stop? The answer is it will not stop. There is no limit once you cross the line and there was only chaos deceit and confusion met with with people who thought it was a great idea to change rules and confuse rules with freedom, injustice, equality, speeches .
John deisal
Scott Roberts You should really watch your mouth. This woman is reaching out because she needs assistance on how to keep her family strong, not an opportunity to look at her husband less than who got put in front of her to leave the family. You should watch your mouth or shut your mouth completely on this topic. When someone is looking for council, your words have to be very, very considerate and careful. If her husband was Jesus and I’m just saying this, would you have spoken so freely to his wife? I say again watch your mouth watch your tone or advise you to give up your council and just preach the word randomly Online thank you.