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Christian Men Need to Stop Blaming Culture, and Start Blaming Their Own Unfaithfulness
Christian men everywhere are pointing fingers. They complain about the government, the school system, the music industry, the media, the universities, the younger generations, and every political opponent they can name. “Things just aren’t the way they were 20-30 years ago!” They shake their heads. They rant on social media. They talk about how the world has fallen apart. They keep shouting about the decline of morality in the culture. And while they are busy complaining, their own spiritual lives…
The Kind of Woman a Godly Man Should Pursue
Most single Christian men feel the weight of this question at some point. “What kind of woman should I be looking for?” It is one of the biggest decisions a man can make under the authority of Christ. I remember sitting with older brothers in the faith years ago, asking them to help me think through this. I had bad relationship after bad relationship, and I did not want to drift into marriage while blind to character. I wanted a…
Sit With The Christian Warriors. The Conversation’s Different.
Most men drift toward crowds that make them feel comfortable. I know I did when I was younger. I would sit with guys who shared my hobbies, my humor, or my surface-level interests. We talked about sports, jobs, politics, movies, gear, cars, hunting, fishing, and whatever garbage drama we were frustrated with that week. It felt normal and it felt easy. But the older I got, and the more I walked with Christ, the more I started to realize something.…
Why Men Need Awe Again
Most men live with their heads down. Bills to pay. Deadlines to meet. Kids to raise. A body that feels more tired than it used to. A phone that never stops buzzing. It is no wonder so many Christian men feel spiritually flat. We live in a world that steals awe from us. Awe is not some poetic luxury. Awe is fuel for the masculine soul. When a man loses his sense of wonder, he slowly becomes a shadow of…
The Difference Between a “Good” Man and a Godly Man
The topic of “masculinity” has been hot on the minds and lips of many in the past couple of years, thanks in part to liberal media and culture trying to completely obliterate the definitions of what “men” and “women” are. In response, secular conservative culture has pushed back with some traditional views of what the male members of the human species are – strong providers who are good at physical things. The world is full of men who look strong…
8 Things You Can Do To Turn Away Your Wife or Girlfriend
Most men do not wreck a relationship with one dramatic moment. They do it slowly. Quietly. One small compromise at a time. Repeatedly. You drift from Christ, drift from responsibility, and drift from love and leadership. A woman feels that drift long before a man ever notices it. One of the things I often teach men is the idea of Interest Level. It is simply the measure of how much she is drawn towards him, respects him, and how cherished…
Discipleship Isn’t Optional: Why Every Christian Man Needs to Be Trained for Battle
When Jesus calls a man to follow Him, He does not invite him into a life of comfort or casual Christianity. He gives a clear and costly command. In Luke 9:23, our Lord says, “If anyone would come after Me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow Me.” That is not a suggestion. It is the daily call to every single Christian man. The Christian life is not passive. It is not something you drift…
The Best Books on Men’s Ministry: A Practical Guide for Church Leaders
If you care about men’s ministry, you already know this: when you reach the men, you reach marriages, kids, and the whole culture of a church. That is not clever marketing talk. It is simply what we see all over Scripture and church history. There’s a saying: “As men go, the church goes.” When men repent, bow to Christ, and start leading in humility and love, everything changes around them. Because that is true, you do not want to guess…
Pornography Is the Silent War Destroying Men of God
Men, Stop Pretending You Can Love Christ and Cherish What Nailed Him to the Cross Brother, if you are a man in Christ, you are called to holiness. Pornography is not a hobby you manage. It is a soul disease that eats your conscience, mocks your vows, and smears the name of your Savior. It promises pleasure and leaves you empty. It offers escape and chains you deeper. Jesus did not shed His blood to purchase men who stare at…
5 Tips for a Thriving Men’s Ministry (Wisdom from the Experts)
Leading a men’s ministry can feel like a big challenge – I’ve been there. You have probably wondered, How on earth do you get busy guys excited about church? How do you move beyond the token monthly pancake breakfast and really impact men’s lives? How do you get men to be committed to showing up and being regular disciple makers? Luckily, we don’t have to figure it out alone. I’ve gathered five nuggets of wisdom from seasoned men’s ministry experts…
How Men Can Deal With Anger
Anger is one of the most explosive emotions men face. Every man feels it when disrespected, ignored, misunderstood, or pushed too far. But while anger itself is not always sinful, what we do with it usually is. Ephesians 4:26 says, “Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger.” That verse draws a line between godly anger and sinful anger. Godly anger defends what is right and honors truth. Sinful anger defends ego, pride,…
Why Real Men Sing in Church
There is something quietly tragic about standing in a room full of men on Sunday morning and hearing mostly the sound of women singing. Not to sound overly judgmental, but I’ve seen it far too often. Rows of husbands and fathers stand motionless, hands in pockets, eyes on the screen, and lips barely moving, if even at all. Their silence speaks louder than any note could. Of course, this issue is not just about singing. It is about the condition…
Raising Sons into Men – Building a Rite of Passage
Big idea: A church-based rite of passage. Texts: Proverbs 1-9; 1 Corinthians 13:11. Hook: Ceremony outline plus a one year mentorship track. There is a moment when a boy needs to know he is becoming a man. In our culture, outside of the Jewish ceremony of Bar Mitzvah, that moment is completely blurry. Most young men drift from childhood into their twenties with no clarity on what it means to take responsibility, to lead with courage, and to walk in…
Kill the Spider: Breaking Free from What Controls You
We are all slaves to something. Every one of us is mastered by whatever we love most, serve most, or can’t seem to live without. For some, it’s alcohol, pornography, nicotine, marijuana, or food. For others, it’s money and wealth. It could be technology, sex, the need for attention from others, or the endless chase to impress people so that we appear successful. Maybe it’s entertainment, buying more stuff, anger, social media, our careers, or video games. The list could…
How to Be a Low-Value Christian Man
Ever met a man who’s in church every week, knows the right lingo, but deep down is spiritually limp? No backbone. No fire. No fight. Just drifting. If you’ve ever wondered how to become that kind of ineffective Christian man – the kind who looks the part but never really follows Christ – then this tongue-in-cheek guide is for you. Below is your playbook for becoming a low-value Christian man. (Of course, this is satire. Don’t do these things! Unless…
What to Do When Your Wife Disrespects You (and How to Lead Through It)
How Christian men can respond biblically, calmly, and with strength In a healthy relationship between a man and a woman, both have deep, God-given needs. Men long to feel respected, and women long to feel loved. Ephesians 5:33 points this out clearly: the husband must love his wife, and the wife must respect her husband. When either one stops receiving what they most need, the relationship begins to strain. When both stop giving what the other needs, that gap can…
Day 7 – Winning Back Her Heart, God’s Way Devo Series: The 10-Point Plan in Action
Day 7 – The 10-Point Plan in Action Scripture Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.” Colossians 3:23-24 Introduction We’ve spent the last six days looking at what damages a woman’s Interest Level, how to rebuild trust and respect, and how joy, confidence, and leadership draw her back to you. Today, we bring it all…
Day 6 – Winning Back Her Heart, God’s Way Devo Series: Guarding Against Adultery
Day 6 – Guarding Against Adultery Scripture “How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word.” Psalm 119:9 Introduction Few things destroy a man’s life faster than adultery. It doesn’t start with the act. It starts with a slow drift of the heart. When your wife’s interest level drops, when your marriage feels cold or distant, when you feel unseen or disrespected—that is when temptation quietly sets its trap. Satan knows he doesn’t…
Day 5 – Winning Back Her Heart, God’s Way Devo Series: Rebuilding Her Respect Through Godly Leadership
Day 5 – Rebuilding Her Respect Through Godly Leadership Scripture Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.” – 1 Corinthians 16:13 Introduction Every man wants his wife to respect him, but few truly understand what creates that respect. It’s not built by harshly demanding obedience, or by quoting Bible verses as a hammer. Respect is not something you can force. It’s something you earn by living under the lordship of Jesus Christ. Maybe your wife…
Day 4 – Winning Back Her Heart, God’s Way Devo Series: Joy Is Magnetic
Day 4 – Joy Is Magnetic Scripture A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.” – Proverbs 17:22 Introduction Some men fall into a habit of negativity. They complain, criticize, and see the bad in everything. Over time, that spirit of discontent poisons their homes and drives their wives away. The Bible paints a very different picture. True joy (the kind rooted in Christ) is powerful, healing, and magnetic. It draws people toward you…