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Raising Sons into Men – Building a Rite of Passage
Big idea: A church-based rite of passage. Texts: Proverbs 1-9; 1 Corinthians 13:11. Hook: Ceremony outline plus a one year mentorship track. There is a moment when a boy needs to know he is becoming a man. In our culture, outside of the Jewish ceremony of Bar Mitzvah, that moment is completely blurry. Most young men drift from childhood into their twenties with no clarity on what it means to take responsibility, to lead with courage, and to walk in…
Kill the Spider: Breaking Free from What Controls You
We are all slaves to something. Every one of us is mastered by whatever we love most, serve most, or can’t seem to live without. For some, it’s alcohol, pornography, nicotine, marijuana, or food. For others, it’s money and wealth. It could be technology, sex, the need for attention from others, or the endless chase to impress people so that we appear successful. Maybe it’s entertainment, buying more stuff, anger, social media, our careers, or video games. The list could…
How to Be a Low-Value Christian Man
Ever met a man who’s in church every week, knows the right lingo, but deep down is spiritually limp? No backbone. No fire. No fight. Just drifting. If you’ve ever wondered how to become that kind of ineffective Christian man – the kind who looks the part but never really follows Christ – then this tongue-in-cheek guide is for you. Below is your playbook for becoming a low-value Christian man. (Of course, this is satire. Don’t do these things! Unless…
What to Do When Your Wife Disrespects You (and How to Lead Through It)
How Christian men can respond biblically, calmly, and with strength In a healthy relationship between a man and a woman, both have deep, God-given needs. Men long to feel respected, and women long to feel loved. Ephesians 5:33 points this out clearly: the husband must love his wife, and the wife must respect her husband. When either one stops receiving what they most need, the relationship begins to strain. When both stop giving what the other needs, that gap can…
Day 7 – Winning Back Her Heart, God’s Way Devo Series: The 10-Point Plan in Action
Day 7 – The 10-Point Plan in Action Scripture Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.” Colossians 3:23-24 Introduction We’ve spent the last six days looking at what damages a woman’s Interest Level, how to rebuild trust and respect, and how joy, confidence, and leadership draw her back to you. Today, we bring it all…
Day 6 – Winning Back Her Heart, God’s Way Devo Series: Guarding Against Adultery
Day 6 – Guarding Against Adultery Scripture “How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word.” Psalm 119:9 Introduction Few things destroy a man’s life faster than adultery. It doesn’t start with the act. It starts with a slow drift of the heart. When your wife’s interest level drops, when your marriage feels cold or distant, when you feel unseen or disrespected—that is when temptation quietly sets its trap. Satan knows he doesn’t…
Day 5 – Winning Back Her Heart, God’s Way Devo Series: Rebuilding Her Respect Through Godly Leadership
Day 5 – Rebuilding Her Respect Through Godly Leadership Scripture Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.” – 1 Corinthians 16:13 Introduction Every man wants his wife to respect him, but few truly understand what creates that respect. It’s not built by harshly demanding obedience, or by quoting Bible verses as a hammer. Respect is not something you can force. It’s something you earn by living under the lordship of Jesus Christ. Maybe your wife…
Day 4 – Winning Back Her Heart, God’s Way Devo Series: Joy Is Magnetic
Day 4 – Joy Is Magnetic Scripture A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.” – Proverbs 17:22 Introduction Some men fall into a habit of negativity. They complain, criticize, and see the bad in everything. Over time, that spirit of discontent poisons their homes and drives their wives away. The Bible paints a very different picture. True joy (the kind rooted in Christ) is powerful, healing, and magnetic. It draws people toward you…
Day 3 – Winning Back Her Heart, God’s Way Devo Series: Avoiding the Two Extremes
Day 3 – Avoiding the Two Extremes Scripture Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.” – 1 Corinthians 16:13 Introduction Many men drift into one of two sinful ditches. One tries to control through pride, overassertiveness, and anger. The other gives up leadership through laziness, apathy, and fear. Both kill a woman’s Interest Level over time. Christ calls us to a better path. Today we will name the two extremes, then fix our eyes on…
Day 2 – Winning Back Her Heart, God’s Way Devo Series: Measure Actions, Not Words
Day 2 – Measure Actions, Not Words Scripture You will recognize them by their fruits. Are grapes gathered from thornbushes, or figs from thistles?” – Matthew 7:16 Introduction Yesterday, we learned that Christlike love is the foundation of every strong marriage. Today, we move to something just as vital: discernment. It is time to start judging your relationship – and yourself – not by words, but by actions. Jesus said that we know the truth about someone’s character by what…
Day 1 – Winning Back Her Heart, God’s Way Devo Series: Love Her Like Christ, Even When It Hurts
Day 1 – Love Her Like Christ, Even When It Hurts Scripture Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.” – Ephesians 5:25 Introduction to the Series Welcome to this seven-day journey for men who want to rebuild love, respect, and attraction in their relationships the right way, God’s way. I’m creating this series, Winning Back Her Heart – God’s Way, not to be about tricks, techniques of “players,” mind games, coercion, or…
Winning Back Her Heart, God’s Way
A 7-Day Devotional Series for Men Every Christian husband has faced moments when the spark fades, communication breaks down, or the relationship feels more like a battlefield than a partnership. But there is hope, and it starts with you deciding to make a change and becoming the man God designed you to be. This seven-day devotional series I’ve created walks you through biblical, practical steps to rebuild trust, restore intimacy, and raise your wife’s interest level – not through manipulation…
Men, Put Down Your Screens and Pick Up Your Sword
Christian men, we are living in a war zone. Every day, a battle rages for your mind, your eyes, and your heart. The enemy has found one of his most effective weapons, and he hides it in plain sight. It sits glowing in your hand, mounted on your wall, or perched on your desk. It feeds you hours of noise, vanity, and godlessness – and you call it “entertainment.” The modern man spends far more time staring at screens than…
5 Big Challenges Every Men’s Ministry Leader Faces (and How to Overcome Them)
When I talk with other men’s leaders, the same questions seem to come up again and again. They’re the same questions I wrestle with myself. How do I help guys care more about their spiritual lives? How do we reach young men? How do we build authentic community where men talk about real struggles? And how do I help my pastor see that men’s ministry isn’t just “another program,” but a vital piece of the church’s mission? If you’ve ever…
How Men’s Leaders Grow Strong Ministries by Returning to the Fundamentals
If you want deeper impact with your men, start by going deeper with God.” Every men’s ministry leader wants a ministry that actually changes lives. The shortcut we often chase is novelty. A new program. A new leadership book or podcast. A louder event. A slicker calendar. The path God gives us is older and stronger: seek the Lord, stay in the Scriptures, and pray with consistency. These basics, practiced faithfully, reshape the leader and the ministry that follows him.…
A Psalm 1 Man in a Psalm 2 World
Every man today feels the weight of a world gone mad. Nations rage, leaders scheme, cultures shake their fists at God, and hostility toward the name of Jesus and the Gospel grows louder each year. Yet right in the middle of this noise, God’s Word paints a clear picture of the man He blesses: a Psalm 1 man. While Psalm 2 shows us kings and rulers raging against the Lord and His Anointed, Psalm 1 sets out the contrast of…
Serving in the Body When No One Claps
The Big idea: Hidden faithfulness is greatness. Texts: 1 Corinthians 12; Matthew 6:1–4. Hook: Pick one unseen service for the next month. Serving in the Body When No One Claps There is a kind of quiet greatness that never touches a microphone. It shows up early, stays late, and leaves the room cleaner than it found it. Most people never notice. God does. The same Lord Jesus Christ who rose from the dead and reigns over all, has told us…
Introducing My New Book for New Christians: New in Christ
Have you recently trusted in Jesus and asked, “What now?” Or maybe you’re a pastor, mentor, or evangelist looking for a clear and biblical way to help new believers take their first steps in the faith. I’d like to introduce you to a brand-new resource I’ve just released: New in Christ: A Simple Guide for New Christians. This little book has been burning in my heart for years. I’ve met many new believers—either right after they gave their lives to…
When Theology Stays in the Head and How to Bring It to the Heart
There is a way to traffic in holy things and remain unchanged. A person can catalog doctrines, recite confessions, and outline systems of truth, yet remain outside the living current of grace. Scripture warns us that knowledge alone can swell the heart with self-importance, while love builds up, and the danger is real because pride often wears religious clothes. The goal of theology is not the applause of the classroom or the thrill of crushing your opponents in online debates,…
Family Worship in 15 Minutes
Men, you can have a simple family worship night, which will be a huge spiritual benefit for you, your wife, and your children. Stop overthinking this. You don’t need to wait until you “feel ready” or delay until the kids are older. God has already told you what to do: open the Bible with your family, pray with them, and sing about Christ. That’s it. This is not about putting on a show or crafting the perfect devotional. So tonight,…