Posts from October 2025
The Carpenter’s Splinter
There’s an old story about a young apprentice who worked under a skilled carpenter. Day after day, he watched his master shape rough timber into beautiful tables and chairs. But one morning, while sanding a board, the apprentice winced in pain. A tiny splinter had embedded itself in his finger. Frustrated, he muttered, “Why do we always get hurt doing good work?” The carpenter overheard him and smiled. “You’ll never shape wood,” he said, “without sometimes feeling what it feels.”…
Cut the Ropes! Letting Go of What Holds You Down
You may not like what I’m about to tell you, but it’s the truth… Imagine a hot air balloon completely filled, supplied with a constant stream of warm air. It should take off. But it doesn’t move. Why? Because the four corners of the basket are tied down with ropes. This balloon doesn’t need more hot air or more fuel. The ropes need to be cut. That’s how a lot of people live their lives. They keep trying to add more –…
Raising Sons into Men – Building a Rite of Passage
Big idea: A church-based rite of passage. Texts: Proverbs 1-9; 1 Corinthians 13:11. Hook: Ceremony outline plus a one year mentorship track. There is a moment when a boy needs to know he is becoming a man. In our culture, outside of the Jewish ceremony of Bar Mitzvah, that moment is completely blurry. Most young men drift from childhood into their twenties with no clarity on what it means to take responsibility, to lead with courage, and to walk in…
Should Christians Keep the Saturday Sabbath? A Bible-First, History-Honest Case
Why Christians no longer keep the Old Covenant Sabbath – and how the Lord’s Day honors the risen Christ. If you love Jesus, you love His Word. You also want to obey what He actually commands under the New Covenant. The weekly seventh-day Sabbath was a covenant sign given to Israel, fulfilled in Christ, and not imposed on Gentile believers. The apostolic church gathered on the first day in celebration of the resurrection, without binding consciences to a Saturday rest…
Kill the Spider: Breaking Free from What Controls You
We are all slaves to something. Every one of us is mastered by whatever we love most, serve most, or can’t seem to live without. For some, it’s alcohol, pornography, nicotine, marijuana, or food. For others, it’s money and wealth. It could be technology, sex, the need for attention from others, or the endless chase to impress people so that we appear successful. Maybe it’s entertainment, buying more stuff, anger, social media, our careers, or video games. The list could…
How to Be a Low-Value Christian Man
Ever met a man who’s in church every week, knows the right lingo, but deep down is spiritually limp? No backbone. No fire. No fight. Just drifting. If you’ve ever wondered how to become that kind of ineffective Christian man – the kind who looks the part but never really follows Christ – then this tongue-in-cheek guide is for you. Below is your playbook for becoming a low-value Christian man. (Of course, this is satire. Don’t do these things! Unless…
The Farmer’s Old Lamp
A farmer once had an old oil lamp hanging by his barn door. It was rusted and dim, but it still gave just enough light for him to walk safely at night. One evening, a neighbor stopped by and chuckled, “You still use that old thing? It barely lights the path!” The farmer smiled. “Maybe so,” he said, “but I don’t need to see the whole path – just the next few steps.” That simple comment hits at the heart…
What Jesus’ Death and Resurrection Accomplished
Whenever I reflect on the cross and the empty tomb, I’m struck by how vast and comprehensive the work of Christ truly is. The Death and Resurrection of Jesus are not only the emotional centerpiece of the whole biblical story, but they are the theological foundation upon which the entire Christian faith rests (1 Corinthians 15:3-4). Every soteriological doctrine of redemption, reconciliation, and restoration finds its fulfillment in those two historical events. Christ’s death was not a tragic accident of…
What to Do When Your Wife Disrespects You (and How to Lead Through It)
How Christian men can respond biblically, calmly, and with strength In a healthy relationship between a man and a woman, both have deep, God-given needs. Men long to feel respected, and women long to feel loved. Ephesians 5:33 points this out clearly: the husband must love his wife, and the wife must respect her husband. When either one stops receiving what they most need, the relationship begins to strain. When both stop giving what the other needs, that gap can…
Why I Cannot Hold to Postmillennialism
Today, I will cover why I cannot hold to Postmillennialism. I personally adhere to the Historic Premillennial view of the end times. While I respect my brothers and sisters who hold to other millennial beliefs, I simply cannot affirm Postmillennialism as biblically accurate. I’m convinced that the Scriptures teach that Christ Himself will return before the millennium to establish His righteous reign on the earth, rather than the Church ushering it in beforehand. That being said, I deeply love Amillennialists…
Day 7 – Winning Back Her Heart, God’s Way Devo Series: The 10-Point Plan in Action
Day 7 – The 10-Point Plan in Action Scripture Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.” Colossians 3:23-24 Introduction We’ve spent the last six days looking at what damages a woman’s Interest Level, how to rebuild trust and respect, and how joy, confidence, and leadership draw her back to you. Today, we bring it all…
Day 6 – Winning Back Her Heart, God’s Way Devo Series: Guarding Against Adultery
Day 6 – Guarding Against Adultery Scripture “How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word.” Psalm 119:9 Introduction Few things destroy a man’s life faster than adultery. It doesn’t start with the act. It starts with a slow drift of the heart. When your wife’s interest level drops, when your marriage feels cold or distant, when you feel unseen or disrespected—that is when temptation quietly sets its trap. Satan knows he doesn’t…
Day 5 – Winning Back Her Heart, God’s Way Devo Series: Rebuilding Her Respect Through Godly Leadership
Day 5 – Rebuilding Her Respect Through Godly Leadership Scripture Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.” – 1 Corinthians 16:13 Introduction Every man wants his wife to respect him, but few truly understand what creates that respect. It’s not built by harshly demanding obedience, or by quoting Bible verses as a hammer. Respect is not something you can force. It’s something you earn by living under the lordship of Jesus Christ. Maybe your wife…
Day 4 – Winning Back Her Heart, God’s Way Devo Series: Joy Is Magnetic
Day 4 – Joy Is Magnetic Scripture A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.” – Proverbs 17:22 Introduction Some men fall into a habit of negativity. They complain, criticize, and see the bad in everything. Over time, that spirit of discontent poisons their homes and drives their wives away. The Bible paints a very different picture. True joy (the kind rooted in Christ) is powerful, healing, and magnetic. It draws people toward you…
Day 3 – Winning Back Her Heart, God’s Way Devo Series: Avoiding the Two Extremes
Day 3 – Avoiding the Two Extremes Scripture Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.” – 1 Corinthians 16:13 Introduction Many men drift into one of two sinful ditches. One tries to control through pride, overassertiveness, and anger. The other gives up leadership through laziness, apathy, and fear. Both kill a woman’s Interest Level over time. Christ calls us to a better path. Today we will name the two extremes, then fix our eyes on…
Day 2 – Winning Back Her Heart, God’s Way Devo Series: Measure Actions, Not Words
Day 2 – Measure Actions, Not Words Scripture You will recognize them by their fruits. Are grapes gathered from thornbushes, or figs from thistles?” – Matthew 7:16 Introduction Yesterday, we learned that Christlike love is the foundation of every strong marriage. Today, we move to something just as vital: discernment. It is time to start judging your relationship – and yourself – not by words, but by actions. Jesus said that we know the truth about someone’s character by what…
Day 1 – Winning Back Her Heart, God’s Way Devo Series: Love Her Like Christ, Even When It Hurts
Day 1 – Love Her Like Christ, Even When It Hurts Scripture Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.” – Ephesians 5:25 Introduction to the Series Welcome to this seven-day journey for men who want to rebuild love, respect, and attraction in their relationships the right way, God’s way. I’m creating this series, Winning Back Her Heart – God’s Way, not to be about tricks, techniques of “players,” mind games, coercion, or…
Winning Back Her Heart, God’s Way
A 7-Day Devotional Series for Men Every Christian husband has faced moments when the spark fades, communication breaks down, or the relationship feels more like a battlefield than a partnership. But there is hope, and it starts with you deciding to make a change and becoming the man God designed you to be. This seven-day devotional series I’ve created walks you through biblical, practical steps to rebuild trust, restore intimacy, and raise your wife’s interest level – not through manipulation…
Men, Put Down Your Screens and Pick Up Your Sword
Christian men, we are living in a war zone. Every day, a battle rages for your mind, your eyes, and your heart. The enemy has found one of his most effective weapons, and he hides it in plain sight. It sits glowing in your hand, mounted on your wall, or perched on your desk. It feeds you hours of noise, vanity, and godlessness – and you call it “entertainment.” The modern man spends far more time staring at screens than…
Why We Must Train Our Children in the Faith
There is no greater mission for a Christian father than to raise children who know, love, and follow Jesus Christ. Along with loving and leading our wives, we have to see our families as our first ministry. The world, with all of its waywardness, will train our kids in its values, whether we like it or not. From classrooms to screens, the voices of culture are loud, persistent, and often ungodly. If we, as men and fathers, do not take…