Over the years, I have talked with many people who genuinely love Christ and sincerely want their marriage to thrive, yet they find themselves stuck in painful and confusing family dynamics. I have counseled husbands who feel torn between loyalty to their wives and a lifelong pattern of deference to their mothers. I have spoken with spouses who feel suffocated by in-laws who seem to have opinions about everything from parenting to finances to where the family should spend Christmas.…