Day 7 – The 10-Point Plan in Action
Scripture
Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.”
Colossians 3:23-24
Introduction
We’ve spent the last six days looking at what damages a woman’s Interest Level, how to rebuild trust and respect, and how joy, confidence, and leadership draw her back to you. Today, we bring it all together.
The 10-Point Plan from Warrior Disciple isn’t a quick fix. It’s a blueprint for becoming a man who reflects the image of Christ in every area of life. This is not about emotional tactics for somehow manipulating or tricking your woman to like you more. What it is is the Holy Spirit is doing the deep work of shaping you into a godly man who leads with strength and humility.
When you begin living this plan out, her Interest Level doesn’t rise because of your charm or cleverness. It rises because she sees Christ’s character being formed in you. God’s original design for manhood — such as strength, discipline, courage, and sacrificial love — begins to show itself, and she can’t help but respond to it. That’s how God wired her from the beginning to see God’s original design and purpose of how a man should behave is practiced.
Putting the Plan Into Practice
Each of the ten points from the Warrior Disciple plan reflects a spiritual truth. Most of them are things we’ve already covered in this devotional series, with a few new concepts. Let’s see what it looks like to put them into action:
1. Get Into Shape
Physical discipline affects spiritual discipline. When you take care of your body, you send a message to your wife (and to yourself) that you value the body God gave you. A man who gets lazy with his body often gets lazy in his walk with Christ.
Caring for your body has nothing to do with vanity (as long as you do not take things too far and venture into idolatry). It’s about stewardship and honoring the vessel God has given you as a temple of the Holy Spirit. He created you to work, to move, and to build. A strong body supports a strong spirit. And, let’s face it, men who take care of themselves more tend to be less lazy and are more ambitious (more on ambition in a minute).
2. Be Scarce, Be a Challenge
Mystery is a lost art in relationships. Many husbands smother their wives with unending attention and think that’s love, but constant neediness suffocates attraction. When you give her space, stay busy with your mission, and live with purpose, it reignites curiosity in her heart.
I haven’t had time to fully unpack this topic yet, but I may create a separate article just on the idea of being “a challenge.” It’s biblical when done rightly. Jesus Himself was both accessible and mysterious—full of grace and truth, yet not controlled by others’ emotions or demands. Take a look at His day-by-day life: yes, He was there with His disciples at most times, yet slipped off late at night and early in the morning to commune with the Father because He had a mission to accomplish.
3. Be Positive and Joyful
We’ve already talked about this in Day 4, but it bears repeating: negativity kills affection. If you’re constantly complaining, your home becomes heavy. Choose to be joyful in the Lord, even when life is difficult. Be upbeat, be light, and be fun to be around. A cheerful, confident man is magnetic.
4. Have Ambition
A godly man is a man on mission. Ambition, when surrendered to God, becomes purpose. Your wife wants to follow a man who knows that he has a greater job to do.
If your spiritual and personal growth have stalled, start praying that God would rekindle holy ambition in your heart. Don’t just exist; build, lead, create, and grow! I haven’t written a full piece on this yet, but I should — because “godly ambition” is one of the most misunderstood traits of a biblical man.
If you need ideas for where to begin, here are some ways to channel godly ambition into real action:
- Jump in and start serving in your local church. Ask where help is needed. Don’t just attend a men’s group — learn how to lead one. When the time comes, volunteer to lead a ministry (it could be on a number of other topics) and train others to lead as well.
- Commit to getting into the best shape of your life. Study nutrition and fitness. Share your progress online as a way to encourage other men to pursue discipline and health for God’s glory. Create videos, write blogs, and even sell a course to help out thousands of other guys.
- Volunteer to mentor troubled or fatherless youth. Help start a program for at-risk kids, or join an outreach that serves your community. Use your influence to point the next generation toward Christ.
- Learn a new skill that can be used for ministry. Photography, videography, writing, carpentry, or web design can all be used to build the Kingdom. Create something that lifts others up and reflects God’s creativity through you.
Ambition doesn’t mean chasing selfish dreams. Nor does it mean overloading your spare time and neglecting your familial duties. Real godly ambition means aiming your energy, creativity, and drive toward things that honor Christ and bless others, instead of being a pathetic couch potato who plays video games endlessly or binge watches TV series.
5. Be Unique
Don’t blend in with every lazy, worldly man around you. The world doesn’t need another passive husband who lives for sports, video games, or social media arguments. Be different. Be the kind of man who stands out because he fears God and walks in wisdom. Your uniqueness is your testimony.
6. Learn to Say “No”
Being godly doesn’t mean being a pushover. Don’t be a doormat. You can be tender and loving yet firm at the same time. A wife feels safer with a man who has convictions, not one who caves to every emotional wind that blows. Saying “no” is an act of leadership, not cruelty.
7. Lead Without Seeking Her Approval
Stop living for her applause. You’re called to lead her, not be led by her emotions. Destroy the idea of “happy wife, happy life.” Of course, you listen to her and treat her as a co-heir of grace, but your direction must come from the Word of God. When your confidence rests in Christ, not in her reaction, you’ll begin to lead with steady strength.
8. Serve Without Boasting
When you serve quietly (and joyfully), she notices. You don’t have to brag about taking out the trash or doing the dishes. Serve because you love Christ, not because you’re trying to earn points. True humility is magnetic. It shows strength under control.
9. Be Patient
Patience is the glue that holds transformation together. Don’t expect overnight change — not in yourself, and not in your marriage. Remember, it took time for the drift to mediocrity in your marriage to happen; it will take time for restoration too. Trust God with the timeline.
10. Keep Growing
Never stop learning, improving, or leading. The moment you stop growing, you start declining. Spiritual stagnation kills interest and intimacy faster than anything else. Stay curious. Stay teachable. Stay in God’s Word. Let sanctification be your lifelong pursuit.
The Heart Behind It All
Everything in this plan boils down to one truth: leadership that reflects Christ. When a man leads his wife with strength and gentleness, when he provides direction, protection, and affection, she begins to feel secure again. And when a woman feels secure, her heart opens up.
That’s when Interest Level rises — not because of charm or gimmicks, but because the Spirit of God is drawing her through the reflection of His image in you. The more your life mirrors Jesus, the more her love, trust, and respect will naturally follow.
A Final Challenge
The 10-Point Plan isn’t something to “finish.” It’s a way of life. You’re becoming a man who walks with purpose, lives with integrity, and leads with love.
Let this be your prayer:
Lord, shape me into the kind of man who reflects You…someone who is steady, courageous, humble, self-controlled, and loving. Let my wife see You in me.”
You’ll stumble at times. You’ll fail some days. But keep getting up. Keep praying. Keep moving forward. Keep growing. Keep leading. Remain faithful and you’ll start to see better results.
When you do, you won’t just win your wife’s heart. You’ll win her respect, her trust, and her admiration as she sees the glory of Christ shining through your life.
Ready to Lead with Strength, Integrity, and Purpose?
Warrior Disciple: Discipleship Manual for Men was written to equip men like you to live out godly leadership every single day. This book is more than a study — it’s a roadmap for becoming the kind of man God intended: strong, humble, passionate, and faithful.
Whether you’re leading a men’s group, mentoring younger believers, or rebuilding your own marriage, Warrior Disciple gives you the foundation to rise up and lead with conviction. Each chapter provides practical, biblical direction that will transform your walk with Christ and the way you lead your home.
If you’re ready to go deeper in your discipleship journey and to help other men do the same, don’t wait. The time to grow is now.
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