Christian men everywhere are pointing fingers. They complain about the government, the school system, the music industry, the media, the universities, the younger generations, and every political opponent they can name. “Things just aren’t the way they were 20-30 years ago!” They shake their heads. They rant on social media. They talk about how the world has fallen apart. They keep shouting about the decline of morality in the culture. And while they are busy complaining, their own spiritual lives are shrinking or are blatantly “dead on arrival.”

The truth is that most Christian men today are more discipled by social media or political commentary than by Scripture. They know what their preferred news outlet says about the world, yet they barely know what God says about holiness. They can explain what is wrong with Washington. They have the lowdown on the Russia-Ukraine War. They are not without opinions on Israel and the Middle East. But they do not even realize that their homes are spiritually cold, let alone explain the reasons why! Their anger burns hot over the sins of culture, yet they barely shed a tear over their own sins. Somehow, culture became the problem when the real issue is sitting in front of them in the mirror.

Christian men need to stop blaming culture and start blaming their own unfaithfulness.

Culture Did Not Ruin Your Walk With God. You Did.

Men love to say that culture has gone off the deep end. And sure, culture is dark. Depraved. Sinful. Confused. Blind. But culture did not steal your prayer life. Culture did not make you too tired to read Scripture. Culture did not distract you from discipling your children. Culture did not force you to waste hours on your phone instead of leading your home. Culture did not silence your witness. Culture did not tell you to skip church for the fourth week in a row.

Those decisions came from you.

Before a man can blame the outside world, he must face the war inside his own heart. Jesus made it painfully clear.

“Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.” (Matthew 12:34)

Your spiritual dryness is not caused by what is happening in the culture. It is caused by what you are tolerating in your own life.

Stop Worshiping Politics and Start Worshiping Christ

Some men talk more passionately about their political party than they do about their Savior. They can debate policies for hours, but cannot defend the Gospel. They know their party platform, yet they cannot explain what the doctrine of Justification by Faith is. Their hope rises and falls with elections, not with the promises of God. They treat political victories as spiritual victories, even though God never told them to build a kingdom through voting power.

Here is the truth that will offend the politically obsessed man. If your emotions, hope, and energy get stirred up more by political headlines than by the Word of God, then politics has become your idol.

“Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness.” (Matthew 6:33)

Not a political kingdom. Not cultural dominance. His kingdom. His righteousness. All for His glory. A godly man cares about justice, truth, and morality, but he never confuses that with worshiping Christ.

Stop Complaining About the Younger Generations and Start Discipling Them

Men love to mock the younger generations. They say Gen Z is soft and wimpy. They say Millennials are entitled and lazy. They say Gen Alpha will be even worse. They complain about their attitudes, their habits, and their worldview. Yet somehow these same men never take a younger guy under their wing. They do not disciple others. They do not mentor others. They do not invest. They do not teach. They do not lead.

It is easier to blame the next generation than to shape them.

God never told older men to sit back and criticize. Scripture says the opposite.

“Older men are to be sober minded, dignified, self controlled, sound in faith.” (Titus 2:2) And it continues: “…encourage the young men to be self-controlled. In everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity, seriousness and soundness of speech that cannot be condemned.” (Titus2:6-8)

And the Apostle Paul said to pass on what we have heard to others, so that those others can instruct even more people as disciples:
“And the things you have heard me say in the presence of many witnesses entrust to reliable people who will also be qualified to teach others.” (2 Timothy 2:2)

The older men in the church are called to be examples of holiness. If the younger men are struggling, maybe it is because the older men refused to step into their God given role. Do not complain about the sons you refuse to father.

Stop Blaming the Decline of Culture and Start Repenting for the Decline of Your Home

Men say culture is corrupt. They say society is falling apart. They say morality has collapsed. But their own households are starving. Wives go spiritually unfed. Children grow up without hearing their father pray. Scripture is rarely opened. Church attendance is inconsistent. Conversations about faith barely exist. The leadership that God commanded is nowhere to be found.

Why blame culture for destroying families when men will not lead their own?

“As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” (Joshua 24:15)

Your home will not drift toward godliness by accident. A man must choose. A man must lead. A man must set the tone. If the home is spiritually cold, culture is not the problem. The man is. That includes me. That includes all of us, as our wives and kids are our first and most important ministry.

Stop Expecting Culture to Act Like the Church

Men get angry that non-believers act like non-believers. They expect the lost to behave as if they are saved. They expect people who reject Scripture to live by Scripture. That expectation is foolish. It is not biblical. God told us the world would be dark. The world is not the Light. The Church is the Light.

“You are the light of the world.” (Matthew 5:14)

Maybe the culture is dark because Christian men stopped shining.

You cannot curse the darkness while refusing to light a candle. Revival does not begin in the White House. It begins in your house. It begins in your war room. It begins in repentance. It begins in obedience. It begins when a man stops blaming everything around him and starts surrendering everything within him.

The Real Enemy Is Not Culture. The Real Enemy Is Your Flesh.

The loudest enemy in your life is not Hollywood, not Washington, not the music industry, not the school system, not the universities, and not TikTok. Those, as we know, are under the control of Satan and his demonic forces (Ephesians 6:11-13).

When it comes to our own selves, though, the loudest enemy is the sin inside our own chest.

Paul said it plainly.

“I discipline my body and keep it under control.” (1 Corinthians 9:27)

A man who will not fight his own flesh will never defeat anything outside of him. Culture does not need to be defeated. Your flesh does. That battle is fought with humility, prayer, holiness, brotherhood, and Scripture. When a man wins that war, everything else begins to change.

A Final Word to the Men

Brother, stop letting the world distract you from the real battlefield. Stop blaming culture when you neglect prayer. Stop blaming the news when you ignore Scripture. Stop blaming society when you refuse to lead your home. Stop blaming the next generation when you will not disciple a younger man. Stop blaming politics when your hope should be in Christ alone. Surrender all to Him.

God is not looking for men who can diagnose cultural problems. God is looking for men who will repent of personal ones.

Judgment begins with the house of God. Revival begins with the men of God. And transformation begins with the man who finally says, Lord, the problem is not out there. The problem is in here.

Face that truth, and everything can change.